Quick Refresher On Bullies

I dare to say, that at least once in your life, you had to face a bully or an arrogant person. And at least once in your life, you were the bully or the arrogant person (for whatever reason). How do you allow the moment to define you? 

Even though, sometimes there is no escaping a bully and you find yourself to be a powerless victim in that moment, you have the power to decide (and act on) how the experience is going to shape you moving forward. Dealing with a bully in family or at work is tricky because you find yourself confined to the same space as the bully. You can try to confront them (which will probably just poke the bear even more) or you can ask others for help. 

If neither option works, you have no choice but to flee the scene altogether. The toughest part is the mental decision you have to make to take control of the situation by simply letting go of it. Once you decide that you no longer participate in the play as the actor portraying the victim, everything else falls into its place. The bully no longer has power over you and cannot feed off of your discomfort or fear. It's the simplest and most difficult thing to do but unless you are physically stopped from running, you can just take off.  That's how you get your power back.

It's like the following joke:

All animals in the forest heard that the great black bear had their names on his list of all the animals from the forest he was set to hunt down and have for lunch. They were all scared and started fleeing the forest. There was a tiny rabbit that was among those trying to flee, as well, but then she realized she could try another approach. She went to the bear and asked him "hey black bear, can you just erase my name from your list?" And the black bear responded "Sure". 

Problem solved.